tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1411507933738225363.post1845408624844254947..comments2023-11-05T06:07:08.825-06:00Comments on girl learning along the way: WednesdayRachelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18209533406055486161noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1411507933738225363.post-87286714251783650192008-06-16T04:50:00.000-05:002008-06-16T04:50:00.000-05:00Thank you for sharing this. Often it is all roses ...Thank you for sharing this. Often it is all roses in the world of wedding blogging and it's good to read blog that are more realistic about the realities.<BR/><BR/>We are also finding the extra strain of paying for the wedding and honeymoon is making things a little difficult this year.<BR/><BR/>I agree with Tiff that it is common that opposites attract in this regard. More sensible spenders are often attracted to more frivolous partners and vice versa. However, I think you can see this as a good thing. You can learn to balance each other and each see the other as a positive force, but in certain situations. It is not that one of you is right and one is wrong - each behaves more appropriately in certain situations.<BR/><BR/>Remember you have years ahead of you to holiday togetehr so your honeymoon doesn't have to be something huge.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck :)Cate Subrosahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11371172824707301749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1411507933738225363.post-41356686566365348922008-05-16T00:36:00.000-05:002008-05-16T00:36:00.000-05:00Yep finances is probably THE one and biggest thing...Yep finances is probably THE one and biggest thing that ruins relationships. Ok first off - take a deep breath. It is fairly normal to be in a relationship or marriage with a partner that is the EXACT opposite of you regarding finances. Compromise. The word you will hear and use endlessly. When I was married, Mike & I had a year we had to pay $1400 in federal taxes. My suggestion? To buckle down for 1-2 mos and just pay it off the bat. Mike's response to that? NOW WHAT FUN WOULD THAT BE?! *sigh* and for some reason, I think probably because Mike made more $$ than me, I let him have the final say in the financial decisions. To this day, he is still the same way in his relationship with Staci as he was with me. Broke as hell but rationalizes his payments. For ex. I had a car that I finally paid the loan off. Now, most people would take that money used for the payment and go pay some other bill down. Oh no. Mike wanted to take it and go buy a new vehicle and then some "well the payment is about the same"!<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Weddings and finances are stressful. Don't be late on your mortgage. I haven't read all the history but remember WHY you two are getting married. Because you love each other and don't want to live without each other. The wedding is simply a ceremony to show others how you feel. While it's nice and we've all been conditioned to have it, it is not NECESSARY. You two will not stop breathing if it doesn't happen. You're life will not be ruined because you didn't have your big day. Seems to me that this big day is what is stressing you out to the point you are questioning the relationship.Tiffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16180435225093130389noreply@blogger.com